“Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the heart.” – Proverbs 21:2
The other day I was sitting in our basement when I heard something hit our basement window. At first, I couldn’t tell what it was. There was no one or nothing outside the window that could have caused the noise. As I returned to my seat, I heard the noise again. This time, as I looked at the window, I saw the source of the noise. A bird was flying around our back porch and was trying to enter our basement through the closed window. As I sat on the couch, the bird attempted at least a dozen more times to get through the window. Each time he (or she) would hit the window and fly away. The bird was stubbornly refusing to admit defeat. Yet, it will never get thorough that window.
As I thought about the bird and his refusal to change his tactics, I thought about my own stubborn ways. Sometimes, I get involved in habits or actions that aren’t productive or beneficial, but I refuse to yield. At times, I find myself searching for answers to relationship or spiritual issues in my life and I find myself seeking solutions through my own knowledge or insights. This never produces beneficial results, but I keep on trying it. Instead of turning to God in prayer or seeking the counsel of a Godly friend, I stubbornly try to figure it out on my own. Sometimes, I need help on a project or need someone’s assistance to complete a task, but I try to do it all on my own. I stubbornly refuse to ask for help. I get tired, overwhelmed and resentful. It’s no one’s fault but my own. I’m too stubborn to ask for the help that I know is available to me.
Like the stubborn bird, I engage in actions or attitudes that only lead to frustration and failure. As Proverb 22 tells us, the way seems “right in his own eyes”, but that doesn’t mean it’s the “right way”. Sometimes, I’m beating my head against a window that’s never going to open. Instead, I should seek God’s guidance and provision. The Lord “weighs the heart”. He knows what I need because He is my Creator. He knows my heart because He made it. He longs to answer my prayers and He has blessed me with family and friends that would be glad to help me with whatever I am facing. I don’t have to be like the stubborn bird. I can yield and let God answer my prayers and use others to bless and minister to me.
You may be like the stubborn bird. You may be engaged in actions and attitudes right now that are getting you nowhere. Stop beating your head against the window. Step back and realize that God is a prayer away and you have people in your life who are waiting to help you. You’re not alone and you weren’t created for a life of futility and frustration. You were made to thrive with the God who loves you and has provided all you need.
Don’t be a stubborn bird. Give it to God. He is there for you.